Everyone should carefully observe which way his heart draws him, and then choose that way with all his strength. - Hasidic Saying
Dating will keep the bond between you and your spouse intact. Try to spend some time alone with your spouse. This is very critical. If you believe that you cant concentrate while on the house because of the kids, then do it outside the comfort of your home. Say for example, a two days and two nights stay in a nearby resort. This will surely bridge the gap brought about by being busy everyday. It is a way of coping up with each others activities.
If youre not comfortable leaving the children to a sitter, perhaps you could leave them to your parents house. Or if you believe that youll surely enjoy the trip as a family then let the children tag along. It depends on you on how you will enjoy company of your spouse with or without the children.
Take the case of Zum and Jamie as an example. They have been married for 5 years now, blessed with a daughter and a son. Jamie is a housekeeper while Zum works in a brokerage firm. He usually comes home late at night, leaves early the following day. He works five times a week. What do you think he does on weekends? He wakes up early, prepares breakfast and serves his wife and kids. After breakfast they usually go out, a picnic in a park or a stroll in a mall. He always makes sure to spend his weekend time with his family. Saturday night is quite special to him. He and Jamie always have dinner in a modest restaurant.
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