The thoughts that we send ourselves can influence our self-esteem and our self-confidence in any particular position. A persons mind may send them negative thoughts when they are confronted by a challenge, such as:
Ill never be able to do this!
Everyones going to laugh at me!
Im very stupid!
Im a hothead, and my anger is going to get me in trouble one of these days.
This is so unfair!
Anyone else but me could do this right!
These negative and depreciating thoughts have a propensity to weaken ones self-confidence and cause it more difficulty to function effectively.
There are three positive ways of overcoming these negative thoughts.
Search for the truth.
At times the negative thoughts include deceptions and exaggerations. Is it actually true that Anyone else but me could do this right? Is it actually true that Im very stupid? These two messages are most likely untrue and they are absolutely useless.
Face up to the fears.
At times the threats in the negative thoughts are wrong or improbable to happen. On other instances it may be that they will occur, but will they actually be so terrible? We might believe: Everyones going to laugh at me! However if this is the worst that can ever happen to us, why not give it a try?