In order to increase self-confidence you have to believe in yourself. If you believe in yourself, then you can succeed in anything and everything you set your mind to. You may not succeed the first time you try, but you need to keep trying until you do succeed. Quick success does not exist in our society.
Success only comes to those who work hard to get them. Youll get nowhere in life if you do not motivate yourself. You have to build a lifestyle that is appropriate for you. Dont settle for anyone else's lifestyle or for a lifestyle thats underneath your expectations.
Self-Conquering Thought Habits
Subscribing to these destructive beliefs leaves you susceptible to the following self-conquering thought habits:
All Or Nothing Thinking.
I am a total failure when my performance is not perfect.
Seeing Only Dark Clouds.
Failure lurks around every area and comes to be expected. For instance, a single negative aspect, piece of criticism, or passing remark darkens all truth. I got a C on one biology exam, now Ill never get into medical school.
Magnification Of Negative or Minimization Of Positive.
Good things dont count closely as much as bad ones. I know I won seven chess games in a row, but losing this one makes me feel awful about myself.
Uncritical Acceptance Of Feelings As Truth.
I feel ugly so it must be true.
Overemphasis On Should Statements.
Should statements are frequently perfectionistic and reflective of others standards instead of expressive of your own needs and desires. Everyone must have a career plan when they go to college. I dont have so there must be something wrong with me.
Labeling is a simplistic procedure and normally expresses a sense of blame. I am a loser and its all my fault.
Difficulty Accepting Compliments.
You like this outfit? I think it makes me look fat and terrible.