It can be as (if not more) significant to take a look at how self-confidence can be weakened or lost as how to gain it. When people are catch out or tripped up thats the time when they will experience de-skilled, disheartened, discouraged, and unconfident. It only takes one incident where someone is humiliated, embarrassed, caught napping, quite uncertain what to do next, and any confidence they possess goes right out the window (and then is actually difficult to recover).
Its the complicated or risky circumstances that wear away confidence, and although it might be a beautiful fantasy to imagine going through life escaping such circumstances, its basically impossible: theyre out there prowling, waiting to trip you up anyway.
Once you determine the types of concerns and situations that weaken your confidence, and as importantly, recognize the things you can do to change those scenarios, then you are really on the way to building a stronger, more solid confidence.
Why Do Resolutions to Improve Ourselves More Likely Fail?
There is no value-judgment more important to man no factor more decisive in his psychological development and motivation than the estimate he passes on himself.
- Nathaniel Branden